Tragedy of Love

They say that only time can heal the wounds of a broken heart. Time makes it easier to accept the loss of people we love. It is a chain that all of us go through – falling in love and getting hurt. Getting hurt and vowing not to love again. Promising not to love again and becoming miserable all our lives.



It isn’t easy getting up on our feet after a crippling fall, but there is just no other way but to stand up and move on. Nobody wants to become unhappy all his life. All of us know how love can bring magic into our lives. Have you ever realized how good it felt waking up in the morning knowing that somewhere out there, there’s a person who’s also thinking of you and feels exactly the way you do? Doesn’t it feel good looking forward to being with that person and spending memorable moments with him? Love brings joy beyond compare and that warm and sparkling glow in each of us. Love brings us to the top of the world where we can conquer just about any obstacle that may come along our way. It is a great feeling love is. There is probably nothing else in this world that can compare to this.



There may be many of us who feel that love has passed us by and finding someone we can share our lives with seems to be such a remote possibility. We watch our trains go by as time swiftly drifts away from us. We may be in control of our lives but we feel somewhat helpless in our relationships. There is nothing permanent in this world and not even those we cherish would be with us forever. There is no guarantee that comes with loving. It is always a risk getting involved with someone. But it is a risk that we have to take if we want to find real happiness. For there is no gain without pain, there is no permanence without commitment, and there is no lasting love without constant sacrifice.



The tragedy of love is in getting hurt. The tragedy of getting hurt is in not wanting to love again. And the tragedy of not wanting to love again is in being alone all our lives. If it is what we want to be, then we could just stay in our shell and be miserably forgotten. But, if it is love we choose, then there is the promise of a new life, the joy of being able to share that life with someone and hope of finding something beautiful and keeping it forever.

Conventions of a Wounded Love by Paulo Coelho

Convention of those wounded in love
Published on December 13, 2009 in News. 124 Comments
promulgated by Paulo Coelho


General provisions:

A – Whereas the saying “all is fair in love and war” is absolutely correct;

B – Whereas for war we have the Geneva Convention, approved on 22 August 1864, which provides for those wounded in the battle field, but until now no convention has been signed concerning those wounded in love, who are far greater in number;

It is hereby decreed that:

Article 1 – All lovers, of any sex, are alerted that love, besides being a blessing, is also something extremely dangerous, unpredictable and capable of causing serious damage. Consequently, anyone planning to love should be aware that they are exposing their body and soul to various types of wounds, and that they shall not be able to blame their partner at any moment, since the risk is the same for both.

Article 2 – Once struck by a stray arrow fired from Cupid’s bow, they should immediately ask the archer to shoot the same arrow in the opposite direction, so as not to be afflicted by the wound known as “unrequited love”. Should Cupid refuse to perform such a gesture, the Convention now being promulgated demands that the wounded partner remove the arrow from his/her heart and throw it in the garbage. In order to guarantee this, those concerned should avoid telephone calls, messages over the Internet, sending flowers that are always returned, or each and every means of seduction, since these may yield results in the short run but always end up wrong after a while. The Convention decrees that the wounded person should immediately seek the company of other people and try to control the obsessive thought: “this person is worth fighting for”.

Article 3 – If the wound is caused by third parties, in other words if the loved one has become interested in someone not in the script previously drafted, vengeance is expressly forbidden. In this case, it is allowed to use tears until the eyes dry up, to punch walls or pillows, to insult the ex-partner in conversations with friends, to allege his/her complete lack of taste, but without offending their honor. The Convention determines that the rule contained in Article 2 be applied: seek the company of other persons, preferably in places different from those frequented by the other party.

Article 4 – In the case of light wounds, herein classified as small treacheries, fulminating passions that are short-lived, passing sexual disinterest, the medicine called Pardon should be applied generously and quickly. Once this medicine has been applied, one should never reconsider one’s decision, not even once, and the theme must be completely forgotten and never used as an argument in a fight or in a moment of hatred.

Article 5 – In all definitive wounds, also known as “breaking up”, the only medicine capable of having an effect is called Time. It is no use seeking consolation from fortune-tellers (who always say that the lost lover will return), romantic books (which always have a happy ending), soap-operas on the television or other such things. One should suffer intensely, completely avoiding drugs, tranquilizers and praying to saints. Alcohol is only tolerated if kept to a maximum of two glasses of wine a day.

Final determination:
Those wounded in love, unlike those wounded in armed conflict, are neither victims nor torturers. They chose something that is part of life, and so they have to accept both the agony and the ecstasy of their choice.
And those who have never been wounded in love will never be able to say: “I have lived”. Because they haven’t.

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but don't you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don't give up though the pace seems slow--
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor's cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out--
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit--
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

What is SEX?

1. Sex is a beauty treatment. Scientific tests find that when women make love they produce amounts of the hormone estrogen, which makes hair shine and skin smooth.

2. Gentle, relaxed lovemaking reduces your chances of suffering dermatitis, skin rashes and blemishes. The sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow.

3. Lovemaking can burn up those calories you piled on during that romantic dinner.

4. Sex is one of the safest sports you can take up. It stretches and tones up just about every muscle in the body. It's more enjoyable than swimming 20 laps, and you don't need special sneakers!

5. Sex is an instant cure for mild depression. It releases endorphins into the bloodstream, producing a sense of euphoria and leaving you with a feeling of well-being.

6. The more sex you have, the more you will be offered. The sexually active body gives off greater quantities of chemicals called pheromones. These subtle sex perfumes drive the opposite sex crazy!

7. Sex is the safest tranquilizer in the world. IT IS 10 TIMES MORE EFFECTIVE THAN VALIUM.

8. Kissing each day will keep the dentist away. Kissing encourages saliva to wash food from the teeth and lowers the level of the acid that causes decay, preventing plaque build-up.

9. Sex actually relieves headaches. A lovemaking session can release the tension that restricts blood vessels in the brain.

10. A lot of lovemaking can unblock a stuffy nose. Sex is a natural antihistamine. It can help combat asthma and high fever.


It's the conversation that animates the touch
No matter how power sitter or shooter one may be
all boils down to his ability for sensible conversations.

Men are made for words and their ability to string them reflects his ability to make things happen. No matter how good looking one is when he lacks the ability to express himself, nothing distinguishes him from a common sex-for-hire.

No words, purely bang-bang.

There are a few tenets one should live by:

Sex is free so why pay?

Sex is mutually consensual why beg.

It comes and it goes.

Whoever stays may find their worth
and if they do, they are kept.

There is no forever, there is only change
but if one changes for the better
one lingers for him after.

A glimpse of the past...

In my 25 years of living, this is the first time i was able to visit a great slice of this wonderful country...our trip to this beautiful and historic island made me realize a lot of things, things that not all of us are lucky to know and see for ourselves for some reasons.
we started the day early, an hour and a half of bus ride to manila and another hour and fifteen minutes of a ferry boat ride to the island. everyone was excited... eagerly listening to what the tour guides are saying to describe the island while we were at the boat patiently waiting to get to our destination.
It was then the silence broke when someone shouted "we're here guys!" which eventually made everyone go take a first glimpse of the island.
we definitely had to take pictures to make us not forget about the beautiful view of this place!

And so we took off the boat and filled our eyes with the great view. the tour started after fifteen minutes of taking pictures. the bus rides took us to the different spots of the island, while a tour guide explains everything about how and when the buildings were ruined during the war.

Having seen all that made me think of one thing, and that is how lucky we are to have not experienced such hardship of struggling to be alive in the middle of a war,
...having a candle to light a hospital with thousands of sick people,
...having to undergo certain medical procedures without any anesthesia or having to limit your water intake to two glasses a day due to insufficient supply and more...

It made me think of the sacrifices that one has to make in order to be alive, in order to serve his purpose, a purpose to fight for his freedom, the freedom that our generation is now enjoying..

Time flew so fast and the day was done...I felt sad leaving this place, but i know that it will always be with me in my memories. I'll never forget the magnificent views of the island and the historical buildings in it.

It was one of the greatest experiences and I should say I would definitely go back to this island,..

Corregidor Island
February 27, 2010

only time understands love...

Once upon a time there was an island where all
the feelings lived; Happiness, Sadness,
Knowledge, and all the others......, including Love.
One day it was announced to all of the feelings
that the island was going to sink to the bottom of
the ocean. So all the feelings prepared their boats
to leave. Love was the only one that stayed. She
wanted to preserve the island until the last
possible moment. When the island was almost
totally under, Love decided it was time to leave.
She began looking for someone to ask for help.
Just then Richness was passing by in a grand
boat. Love asked, "Richness, Can I come with you
on your boat?" Richness answered, "I'm sorry, but
there is a lot of silver and gold on my boat and
there would be no room for you."
Then Love decided to ask Vanity for help who was
passing in a beautiful vessel. Love cried
out, "Vanity, help me please." I can't help you",
Vanity said, "You are all wet and will damage my
beautiful boat."
Next, Love saw Sadness passing by. Love
said, "Sadness, please let me go with you."
Sadness answered, "Love, I'm sorry, but, I just
need to be alone now."
Then, Love saw Happiness. Love cried
out, "Happiness, please take me with you." But
Happiness was so overjoyed that he didn't hear
Love calling to him. Love began to cry.
Then, she heard a voice say, "Come Love, I will
take you with me." It was an elder. Love felt so
blessed and overjoyed that she forgot to ask the
elder his name. When they arrived on land the
elder went on his way. Love realized how much
she owed the elder.
Love then found Knowledge and asked, "Who was
it that helped me?" "It was Time", Knowledge
answered. "But why did Time help me when no
one else would?", Love asked. Knowledge smiled
and with deep wisdom and sincerity,
answered, "Because only Time is capable of
understanding how great Love is."

a night to remember...

hmmnn...i had never been this happy-sad in my life...so much has happened in a single night..

i never thought this day will be a great one, thanks to my friends who never failed to forget my special day...its just so sad that some people who are dear to me did not make it...but thank you so much guys...for making me feel special!

reality bites and it leaves big scars :(

this was first posted 11-15-2004 and up until now, i'm still so affected by it...take a peek and look back if you had been in one heck of a situation...

nangyari na ba sa 'yo to? pwedeng may syota ka na..o married k n...o engaged...o single....in one tym of ur life, naramdaman mo 'to...o nararamdam mo s kasalukuyan... yun bang tipong alam mong "committed" k n, pero biglang may kakaiba kang "feeling" sa kanya.....corny pero totoo...kakainis dahil u try to deny urself of that "feeling" dahil HINDI PWEDE... pero bakit nga ba kse? masaya k naman sa luvlife mo...okay sige, nagkakaron kyo ng quarrels pero db normal lng naman yon sa kahit kanino? kaso mo, hindi mo talaga maalis sa isip mo ang isang ito..u want to make ur moves....pero intimidated k...or nahihiya ka....kasi nga HINDI PWEDE.....kuntento k n lng na nakikita mo sya...o nakakausap.... nakakatxt....pero habang tumatagal, mas nahihirapan ka!!...bad trip!..dati nga, muntik k pang magselos!...ganon? eh alam mo naman sa sarili mo na wala kang karapatan pero bakit jealous ka?....you try to pretend n okay ka la ng....wala yan.....lilipas din yan.....bk infatuation lang....or baka longing ka lang....pero di pa rin.....mismo ang sarili mo, di mo ma- convinced! eh ano nga ba meron ang isang 'to? nothing really exciting, di naman sya ka-ganda o ka-guapo, kaso iba talaga ang arrive nya sa yo na di mo ma-explain....yun bang tinatawag nilang "something striked u"..ganon.....pero dahil nga HINDI PWEDE, quiet ka n lng.. ..ayaw mong pahalata.......kahit sa friends mo, di mo masabi..... kaso minsan, obvious ka na rin...kse naman hirap kalaban ang sarili.....the more u deny urself, the more u pretend, the more it gets obvious! minsan, nag-try kang iwasan sya...okay fine...day 1...2..3 ...sumuko ka rin!...na-realize mo na di mo pala kaya....sobra mo siyang na-miss lalo!....pero mali, kasi nga HINDI PWEDE. haayyyy naku...ba't nga ba ganun? just when u thought ur okay with the one u have, may biglang dadating na ganito.....bat b kc may mga bagay n HINDI PWEDE?!?! mhirap pigilin mas lalong mahirap itago lalo n pag alam mong ntututunan mo n cyang mahalin! bkit b gnun? ang hirap ng gn2... da more u try 2 4get him/her, da more n mas nmimiss mo cya... anu bng meron cya? tpos ddting ung tym n mgging complicated ung situation nyo! deadmahan n... tama b un? ....haaayyyyy.....

sometimes you feel so alone and you'll find someone whom you thought could be there to lessen the pain, but in the end, you'll find yourself being in a more complicated state, realizing that the one whom you thought could help you will be the one to cause you more pain... reality that bites...big scars...